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CHAPTER I WHAT MAKES PEOPLE UNHAPPY?
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Animals are happy so long as they have health and enough to eat .
Human beings ,
one feels ,
ought to be ,
but in the modern world they are not ,
at least in a great majority of cases .
If you are unhappy yourself ,
you will probably be prepared to admit that you are not exceptional in this .
If you are happy ,
ask yourself how many of your friends are so .
And when you have reviewed your friends ,
teach yourself the art of reading faces ;
make yourself receptive to the moods of those whom you meet in the course of an ordinary day .
A mark in every face I meet ,
Marks of weakness ,
marks of woe
says Blake.
Though the kinds are different ,
you will find that unhappiness meets you everywhere .
Let us suppose that you are in New York,
the most typically modern of great cities .
Stand in a busy street during working hours ,
or on a main thoroughfare at a week-end ,
or at a dance of an evening ;
empty your mind of your own ego ,
and let the personalities of the strangers about you take possession of you one after another .
You will find that each of these different crowds has its own trouble .
In the work-hour
crowd you will see anxiety ,
excessive concentration ,
dyspepsia ,
lack of interest in anything but the struggle ,
incapacity for play ,
unconsciousness of their fellow creatures .
On a main road at the week-end you will see men and women ,
all comfortably off ,
and some very rich ,
engaged in the pursuit of pleasure .
This pursuit is conducted by all at a uniform pace ,
that of the slowest car in the procession ;
it is impossible to see the road for the cars ,
or the scenery since looking aside would cause an accident ;
all the occupants of all the cars are absorbed in the desire to pass other cars ,
which they cannot do on account of the crowd ;
if their minds wander from this preoccupation ,
as will happen occasionally to those who are not themselves driving ,
unutterable boredom seizes upon them and stamps their features with trivial discontent .
Once in a way a car-load
of coloured people will show genuine enjoyment ,
but will cause indignation by erratic behaviour ,
and ultimately get into the hands of the police owing to an accident :
enjoyment in holiday time is illegal .
Or ,
again ,
watch people at a gay evening .
All come determined to be happy ,
with the kind of grim resolve with which one determines not to make a fuss at the dentist’s .
It is held that drink and petting are the gateways to joy ,
so people get drunk quickly ,
and try not to notice how much their partners disgust them .
After a sufficient amount of drink ,
men begin to weep ,
and to lament how unworthy they are ,
morally ,
of the devotion of their mothers .
All that alcohol does for them is to liberate the sense of sin ,
which reason suppresses in saner moments .
The causes of these various kinds of unhappiness lie partly in the social system ,
partly in individual psychology —
which ,
of course ,
is itself to a considerable extent a product of the social system .
I have written before about the changes in the social system required to promote happiness .
Concerning the abolition of war ,
of economic exploitation ,
of education in cruelty and fear ,
it is not my intention to speak in this volume .
To discover a system for the avoidance of war is a vital need of our civilization ;
but no such system has a chance while men are so unhappy that mutual extermination seems to them less dreadful than continued endurance of the light of day .
To prevent the perpetuation of poverty is necessary if the benefits of machine production are to accrue in any degree to those most in need of them ;
but what is the use of making everybody rich if the rich themselves are miserable ?
Education in cruelty and fear is bad ,
but no other kind can be given by those who are themselves the slaves of these passions .
These considerations lead us to the problem of the individual :
what can a man or woman ,
here and now ,
in the midst of our nostalgic society ,
do to achieve happiness for himself or herself ?
In discussing this problem ,
I shall confine my attention to those who are not subject to any extreme cause of outward misery .
I shall assume a sufficient income to secure food and shelter ,
sufficient health to make ordinary bodily activities possible .
I shall not consider the great catastrophes ,
such as loss of all one’s children ,
or public disgrace .
There are things to be said about such matters ,
and they are important things ,
but they belong to a different order from the things that I wish to say .
My purpose is to suggest a cure for the ordinary day-to-day
unhappiness from which most people in civilized countries suffer ,
and which is all the more unbearable because ,
having no obvious external cause ,
it appears inescapable .
I believe this unhappiness to be very largely due to mistaken views of the world ,
mistaken ethics ,
mistaken habits of life ,
leading to destruction of that natural zest and appetite for possible things upon which all happiness ,
whether of men or animals ,
ultimately depends .
These are matters which lie within the power of the individual ,
and I propose to suggest the changes by which his happiness ,
given average good fortune ,
may be achieved .
Perhaps the best introduction to the philosophy which I wish to advocate will be a few words of autobiography .
I was not born happy .
As a child ,
my favourite hymn was : “
Weary of earth and laden with my sin .”
At the age of five ,
I reflected that ,
if I should live to be seventy ,
I had only endured ,
so far ,
a fourteenth part of my whole life ,
and I felt the long-spread-out
boredom ahead of me to be almost unendurable .
In adolescence ,
I hated life and was continually on the verge of suicide ,
from which ,
however ,
I was restrained by the desire to know more mathematics .
Now ,
on the contrary ,
I enjoy life ;
I might almost say that with every year that passes I enjoy it more .
This is due partly to having discovered what were the things that I most desired ,
and having gradually acquired many of these things .
Partly it is due to having successfully dismissed certain objects of desire —
such as the acquisition of indubitable knowledge about something or other —
as essentially unattainable .
But very largely it is due to a diminishing preoccupation with myself .
Like others who had a Puritan education ,
I had the habit of meditating on my sins ,
follies ,
and shortcomings .
I seemed to myself —
no doubt justly —
a miserable specimen .
Gradually I learned to be indifferent to myself and my deficiencies ;
I came to centre my attention increasingly upon external objects :
the state of the world ,
various branches of knowledge ,
individuals for whom I felt affection .
External interests ,
it is true ,
bring each its own possibility of pain :
the world may be plunged in war ,
knowledge in some direction may be hard to achieve ,
friends may die .
But pains of these kinds do not destroy the essential quality of life ,
as do those that spring from disgust with self .
And every external interest inspires some activity which ,
so long as the interest remains alive ,
is a complete preventive of ennui .
Interest in oneself ,
on the contrary ,
leads to no activity of a progressive kind .
It may lead to the keeping of a diary ,
to getting psycho-analysed ,
or perhaps to becoming a monk .
But the monk will not be happy until the routine of the monastery has made him forget his own soul .
The happiness which he attributes to religion he could have obtained from becoming a crossing-sweeper ,
provided he were compelled to remain one .
External discipline is the only road to happiness for those unfortunates whose self-absorption
is too profound to be cured in any other way .
Self-absorption
is of various kinds .
We may take the sinner ,
the narcissist ,
and the megalomaniac as three very common types .
When I speak of “
the sinner ”,
I do not mean the man who commits sins :
sins are committed by everyone or no one ,
according to our definition of the word .
I mean the man who is absorbed in the consciousness of sin .
This man is perpetually incurring his own disapproval ,
which ,
if he is religious ,
he interprets as the disapproval of God .
He has an image of himself as he thinks he ought to be ,
which is in continual conflict with his knowledge of himself as he is .
If ,
in his conscious thought ,
he has long since discarded the maxims that he was taught at his mother’s knee ,
his sense of sin may be buried deep in his unconscious ,
and only emerge when he is drunk or asleep .
Nevertheless ,
it may suffice to take the savour out of everything .
At bottom he still accepts all the prohibitions he was taught in infancy .
Swearing is wicked ;
drinking is wicked ;
ordinary business shrewdness is wicked ;
above all ,
sex is wicked .
He does not ,
of course ,
abstain from any of these pleasures ,
but they are all poisoned for him by the feeling that they degrade him .
The one pleasure that he desires with his whole soul is that of being approvingly caressed by his mother ,
which he can remember having experienced in childhood .
This pleasure being no longer open to him ,
he feels that nothing matters ;
since he must sin ,
he decides to sin deeply .
When he falls in love he looks for maternal tenderness ,
but cannot accept it ,
because ,
owing to the mother-image,
he feels no respect for any woman with whom he has sexual relations .
Then ,
in his disappointment ,
he becomes cruel ,
repents of his cruelty ,
and starts afresh on the dreary round of imagined sin and real remorse .
This is the psychology of very many apparently hard-boiled
reprobates .
What drives them astray is devotion to an unattainable object (
mother or mother-substitute)
together with the inculcation ,
in early years ,
of a ridiculous ethical code .
Liberation from the tyranny of early beliefs and affections is the first step towards happiness for these victims of maternal “
virtue ”.
Narcissism is ,
in a sense ,
the converse of an habitual sense of sin ;
it consists in the habit of admiring oneself and wishing to be admired .
Up to a point it is ,
of course ,
normal ,
and not to be deplored ;
it is only in its excesses that it becomes a grave evil .
In many women ,
especially rich Society women ,
the capacity for feeling love is completely dried up ,
and is replaced by a powerful desire that all men should love them .
When a woman of this kind is sure that a man loves her ,
she has no further use for him .
The same thing occurs ,
though less frequently ,
with men ;
the classic example is the hero of Liaisons Dangereuses.
When vanity is carried to this height ,
there is no genuine interest in any other person ,
and therefore no real satisfaction to be obtained from love .
Other interests fail even more disastrously .
A narcissist ,
for example ,
inspired by the homage paid to great painters ,
may become an art student ;
but ,
as painting is for him a mere means to an end ,
the technique never becomes interesting ,
and no subject can be seen except in relation to self .
The result is failure and disappointment ,
with ridicule instead of the expected adulation .
The same thing applies to those novelists whose novels always have themselves idealized as heroines .
All serious success in work depends upon some genuine interest in the material with which the work is concerned .
The tragedy of one successful politician after another is the gradual substitution of narcissism for an interest in the community and the measures for which he stands .
The man who is only interested in himself is not admirable ,
and is not felt to be so .
Consequently the man whose sole concern with the world is that
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